擦肩而过 (Pass By)

Ca Jian Er Guo

我爱著谁 爱到我有点醉
wǒ ài zhe shuí ài dào wǒ yǒu diǎn zuì
I love someone so much that I'm a bit tipsy.
告诉我你是谁 能够把我让我变不对
gào sù wǒ nǐ shì shuí néng gòu bǎ wǒ ràng wǒ biàn bú duì
Tell me who you are, so I can change for you.
你不会累 但我却爱你爱到好累
nǐ bú huì lèi dàn wǒ què ài nǐ ài dào hǎo lèi
You won't get tired, but I'm exhausted from loving you.
从没有为了谁 不顾安危 付出一切
cóng méi yǒu wèi le shuí bù gù ān wēi fù chū yī qiè
I've never risked everything for anyone before.
站在这平衡点 我还是觉得有点危险
zhàn zài zhè píng héng diǎn wǒ hái shì jué de yǒu diǎn wēi xiǎn
Standing on this balance point, I still feel a bit unsafe.
或许是看不见 只能够靠感觉
huò xǔ shì kàn bú jiàn zhǐ néng gòu kào gǎn jué
Perhaps I can't see it, I can only rely on my feelings.
他不会是个好男人 也不会是个好情人
tā bú huì shì gè hǎo nán rén yě bú huì shì gè hǎo qíng rén
He won't be a good man, nor will he be a good lover.
你对我说 我们只是擦肩而过
nǐ duì wǒ shuō wǒ men zhǐ shì cā jiān ér guò
You told me that we just passed by each other.
好的男人有那么多 少了他的日子也能过
hǎo de nán rén yǒu nà me duō shǎo le tā de rì zi yě néng guò
There are so many good men; I can live without him.
我不会再让你寂寞 也不会让你更难过
wǒ bú huì zài ràng nǐ jì mò yě bú huì ràng nǐ gèng nán guò
I won't let you be lonely anymore, nor will I make you sad.
你听我说 要好好学著去生活
nǐ tīng wǒ shuō yào hǎo hǎo xué zhe qù shēng huó
Listen to me, learn to live well.
就算未来有多少错 至少还有我的问候我的温柔 陪你渡过
jiù suàn wèi lái yǒu duō shǎo cuò zhì shǎo hái yǒu wǒ de wèn hòu wǒ de wēn róu péi nǐ dù guò
No matter how many mistakes the future brings, at least my greetings and my tenderness will accompany you.
你听我说 你不要这么做
nǐ tīng wǒ shuō nǐ bú yào zhè me zuò
Listen to me, don't do this.
你不要看著我 说你已经知道怎么做
nǐ bú yào kàn zhe wǒ shuō nǐ yǐ jīng zhī dào zěn me zuò
Don't look at me and say you already know what to do.
你很难受 我愿意陪你一起承受
nǐ hěn nán shòu wǒ yuàn yì péi nǐ yì qǐ chéng shòu
You're hurting; I'm willing to bear this with you.
只要你不怕痛 再多坎坷我都陪你走
zhǐ yào nǐ bù pà tòng zài duō kǎn kě wǒ dōu péi nǐ zǒu
As long as you’re not afraid of pain, I’ll walk with you through any hardships.
站在这平衡点 我还是觉得有点危险
zhàn zài zhè píng héng diǎn wǒ hái shì jué de yǒu diǎn wēi xiǎn
Standing on this balance point, I still feel a bit unsafe.
或许是看不见 只能够靠感觉
huò xǔ shì kàn bú jiàn zhǐ néng gòu kào gǎn jué
Perhaps I can't see it, I can only rely on my feelings.
他不会是个好男人 也不会是个好情人
tā bú huì shì gè hǎo nán rén yě bú huì shì gè hǎo qíng rén
He won't be a good man, nor will he be a good lover.
你对我说 我们只是擦肩而过
nǐ duì wǒ shuō wǒ men zhǐ shì cā jiān ér guò
You told me that we just passed by each other.
好的男人有那么多 少了他的日子也能过
hǎo de nán rén yǒu nà me duō shǎo le tā de rì zi yě néng guò
There are so many good men; I can live without him.
我不会再让你寂寞 也不会让你更难过
wǒ bú huì zài ràng nǐ jì mò yě bú huì ràng nǐ gèng nán guò
I won't let you be lonely anymore, nor will I make you sad.
你听我说 要好好学著去生活
nǐ tīng wǒ shuō yào hǎo hǎo xué zhe qù shēng huó
Listen to me, learn to live well.
就算未来有多少错 至少还有我的问候我的温柔 陪你渡过
jiù suàn wèi lái yǒu duō shǎo cuò zhì shǎo hái yǒu wǒ de wèn hòu wǒ de wēn róu péi nǐ dù guò
No matter how many mistakes the future brings, at least my greetings and my tenderness will accompany you.
他不会是个好男人 也不会是个好情人
tā bú huì shì gè hǎo nán rén yě bú huì shì gè hǎo qíng rén
He won't be a good man, nor will he be a good lover.
你对我说 我们只是擦肩而过
nǐ duì wǒ shuō wǒ men zhǐ shì cā jiān ér guò
You told me that we just passed by each other.
好的男人有那么多 少了他的日子也能过
hǎo de nán rén yǒu nà me duō shǎo le tā de rì zi yě néng guò
There are so many good men; I can live without him.
我不会再让你寂寞 也不会让你更难过
wǒ bú huì zài ràng nǐ jì mò yě bú huì ràng nǐ gèng nán guò
I won't let you be lonely anymore, nor will I make you sad.
你听我说 要好好学著去生活
nǐ tīng wǒ shuō yào hǎo hǎo xué zhe qù shēng huó
Listen to me, learn to live well.
就算未来有多少错 至少还有我的问候我的温柔 陪你渡过
jiù suàn wèi lái yǒu duō shǎo cuò zhì shǎo hái yǒu wǒ de wèn hòu wǒ de wēn róu péi nǐ dù guò
No matter how many mistakes the future brings, at least my greetings and my tenderness will accompany you.
就算未来有多少错 至少还有我的问候我的温柔 陪你 渡过
jiù suàn wèi lái yǒu duō shǎo cuò zhì shǎo hái yǒu wǒ de wèn hòu wǒ de wēn róu péi nǐ dù guò
No matter how many mistakes the future brings, at least my greetings and my tenderness will accompany you.

Mandarin learning guide

Learn with 擦肩而過

This guide uses the supplied lyric lines from 《擦肩而過》 to study how the singer moves between uncertainty, distance, and a promise of support. The vocabulary here is practical for talking about feelings, choices, and reassurance in Mandarin.

emotion vocabulary, softening and contrast, supportive offers

What to listen for

The lyrics present a speaker who is unsure, tired, and cautious, yet still offers steady care. Across repeated lines, the song contrasts a brief encounter with a longer promise of companionship, using everyday expressions such as 寂寞, 難過, 生活, and 陪你. The language is direct and conversational, making it useful for learners who want to recognize how Mandarin expresses emotional nuance without becoming overly literary.

  • Understand how the lyrics contrast uncertainty with reassurance.
  • Recognize key phrases for loneliness, sadness, and support.
  • Practice reading short conversational lines with negation and repetition.

How the song moves

Opening uncertainty

The first lines describe being emotionally affected and unsure, with repeated questions and statements about feeling tired or unsafe.

Turning point

The lyric shifts to the idea that the two people are only '擦肩而過,' then moves into a response that offers distance, endurance, and care.

Closing reassurance

The ending repeats the promise of support: the speaker asks the listener to learn to live well and says their greetings and tenderness will accompany them through the future.

Translation choices

我爱著谁 爱到我有点醉

wǒ ài zhe shuí ài dào wǒ yǒu diǎn zuì

Natural English
I'm loving someone so much that I'm a little dizzy.
Why
I used 'dizzy' to match 醉 as a feeling of being affected, while keeping the line personal and immediate. 'A little' fits 有點 and preserves the speaker's self-aware tone.

你对我说 我们只是擦肩而过

nǐ duì wǒ shuō wǒ men zhǐ shì cā jiān ér guò

Natural English
You told me that we were just passing by each other.
Why
'Passing by each other' reflects 擦肩而過 more naturally than a literal word-for-word version. The past framing fits the reported speech in 說.

只要你不怕痛 再多坎坷我都陪你走

zhǐ yào nǐ bù pà tòng zài duō kǎn kě wǒ dōu péi nǐ zǒu

Natural English
As long as you aren't afraid of pain, I'll stay with you through however many hardships come.
Why
This keeps the conditional structure of 只要 and the supportive promise of 陪你走. 'Hardships' captures 坎坷 as life difficulties rather than physical obstacles only.

Useful Mandarin from the song

好累hǎo lèivery tired; exhausted

This intensifies 累 and is useful for physical or emotional fatigue. Here it describes tiring emotional effort, not just lack of sleep.

今天工作好累。jīn tiān gōng zuò hǎo lèi。Today's work was exhausting.
擦肩而过cā jiān ér guòto pass by each other; to narrowly miss each other

This fixed phrase is useful outside the song when describing brief meetings, missed chances, or people crossing paths without connecting.

我們在人群裡擦肩而過。wǒ men zài rén qún lǐ cā jiān ér guò。We passed by each other in the crowd.
学著xué zheto learn to; to gradually start doing

This shows an ongoing process of learning a way of living. It is softer than simply saying 學, because it suggests adapting over time.

我在學著慢慢放下。wǒ zài xué zhù màn màn fàng xià。I'm learning to let go slowly.
承受chéng shòuto bear; to endure

This verb is useful for carrying a burden, pain, or pressure. In the lyric, it means sharing someone else's difficulty rather than solving it immediately.

她一個人承受太多了。tā yī gè rén chéng shòu tài duō le。She has been bearing too much on her own.

Listen closely

  • Listen for the repeated structure 我對你說 / 你聽我說, which creates a direct, intimate address.
  • Notice how 不會, 也不會, and 不要 keep the lyric's stance firm but caring rather than aggressive.
  • Track the repeated ending line about my greetings and my tenderness, which acts like a refrain of reassurance.

Check your understanding

  1. Which line says the two people only passed by each other?

    Show answer

    你對我說 我們只是擦肩而過。

  2. What does 學著 add to the meaning in 你聽我說 要好好學著去生活?

    Show answer

    It suggests learning gradually or learning how to live over time.

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