大龄女子 (Darling)

Da Ling Nv Zi

眼睛仿佛起了雾
yǎn jīng fǎng fú qǐ le wù
Eyes seem to have fogged up
也许只是镜片模糊
yě xǔ zhǐ shì jìng piàn mó hú
Maybe it's just the lenses being blurry
除了自己 已经很久没接触
chú le zì jǐ yǐ jīng hěn jiǔ méi jiē chù
Haven't connected with anyone for a long time, except myself
另一个人体贴照顾
lìng yí gè rén tǐ tiē zhào gù
Another person who is considerate and caring
或那一种交流相处
huò nà yī zhǒng jiāo liú xiāng chǔ
Or that kind of interaction
和爱情 显得生疏
hé ài qíng xiǎn de shēng shū
And love seems distant
因为倔强的缘故
yīn wèi jué jiàng de yuán gù
Because of being stubborn
错过缘份遇缺未补
cuò guò yuán fèn yù quē wèi bǔ
Missed the chance, and the fate hasn't been made up for
不要束缚 却又被流年困住
bú yào shù fù què yòu bèi liú nián kùn zhù
Don’t want to be restricted, yet trapped by the passing years
柜子里的那一件
guì zi lǐ de nà yī jiàn
The item in the closet
它还在等
tā hái zài děng
It's still waiting
能不能被在乎
néng bù néng bèi zài hū
Can it be cared for?
我们都曾经期待 能嫁个好丈夫
wǒ men dōu céng jīng qī dài néng jià gè hǎo zhàng fū
We all used to hope to marry a good husband
爱得一塌糊涂
ài dé yī tā hú tú
Love was a complete mess
也不要一个人做主
yě bú yào yí gè rén zuò zhǔ
And shouldn't make decisions alone
想像未来可以手牵著手的路
xiǎng xiàng wèi lái kě yǐ shǒu qiān zhù shǒu de lù
Imagining the future of walking hand in hand
相信缘份的人
xiāng xìn yuán fèn de rén
Those who believe in fate
好像就不会那么辛苦
hǎo xiàng jiù bú huì nà me xīn kǔ
Seem to not suffer as much
我们谁不曾盼望 有ㄧ份好归宿
wǒ men shuí bù céng pàn wàng yǒu ㄧ fèn hǎo guī sù
Who among us hasn't hoped for a good home?
能够直到永远
néng gòu zhí dào yǒng yuǎn
That can last forever
幸福啊不会被拦阻
xìng fú a bú huì bèi lán zǔ
Happiness will not be obstructed
总有一天可以被所有人羡慕
zǒng yǒu yī tiān kě yǐ bèi suǒ yǒu rén xiàn mù
One day, it can make everyone envious
只是迟到一步
zhǐ shì chí dào yī bù
Just one step late
因为倔强的缘故
yīn wèi jué jiàng de yuán gù
Because of being stubborn
错过缘份遇缺未补
cuò guò yuán fèn yù quē wèi bǔ
Missed the chance, and the fate hasn't been made up for
不要束缚 却又被流年困住
bú yào shù fù què yòu bèi liú nián kùn zhù
Don’t want to be restricted, yet trapped by the passing years
柜子里的那一件
guì zi lǐ de nà yī jiàn
The item in the closet
它还在等 是否有人在乎
tā hái zài děng shì fǒu yǒu rén zài hū
It's still waiting, wondering if anyone cares
我们谁不曾盼望 有ㄧ份好归宿
wǒ men shuí bù céng pàn wàng yǒu ㄧ fèn hǎo guī sù
Who among us hasn't hoped for a good home?
能够直到永远
néng gòu zhí dào yǒng yuǎn
That can last forever
幸福啊不会被拦阻
xìng fú a bú huì bèi lán zǔ
Happiness will not be obstructed
总有一天可以被所有人羡慕
zǒng yǒu yī tiān kě yǐ bèi suǒ yǒu rén xiàn mù
One day, it can make everyone envious
只是迟到一步
zhǐ shì chí dào yī bù
Just one step late
偏偏寂寞总是难相处
piān piān jì mò zǒng shì nán xiāng chǔ
Loneliness is always hard to handle
偏偏难过就是挨不住
piān piān nán guò jiù shì āi bú zhù
Sadness is just unbearable
不知道 为了什么哭
bù zhī dào wèi le shén me kū
I don't know why I cry
我们都曾经期待 能嫁个好丈夫
wǒ men dōu céng jīng qī dài néng jià gè hǎo zhàng fū
We all used to hope to marry a good husband
爱得一塌糊涂
ài dé yī tā hú tú
Love was a complete mess
也不要一个人做主
yě bú yào yí gè rén zuò zhǔ
And shouldn't make decisions alone
想像未来可以手牵著手的路
xiǎng xiàng wèi lái kě yǐ shǒu qiān zhù shǒu de lù
Imagining the future of walking hand in hand
相信缘份的人
xiāng xìn yuán fèn de rén
Those who believe in fate
好像就不会那么辛苦
hǎo xiàng jiù bú huì nà me xīn kǔ
Seem to not suffer as much
我们谁不曾盼望 有ㄧ份好归宿
wǒ men shuí bù céng pàn wàng yǒu ㄧ fèn hǎo guī sù
Who among us hasn't hoped for a good home?
能够直到永远
néng gòu zhí dào yǒng yuǎn
That can last forever
幸福啊不会被拦阻
xìng fú a bú huì bèi lán zǔ
Happiness will not be obstructed
总有一天可以被所有人羡慕
zǒng yǒu yī tiān kě yǐ bèi suǒ yǒu rén xiàn mù
One day, it can make everyone envious
虽然现在 还是一个人住
suī rán xiàn zài hái shì yí gè rén zhù
Although now, I'm still living alone
虽然现在 还是一个人
suī rán xiàn zài hái shì yí gè rén
Although now, I'm still one person

Mandarin learning guide

Learn with 大齡女子

This guide follows the song’s language about distance, waiting, and the hopes people place on love and marriage. It is built from the supplied lyrics only, with attention to how the repeated lines shift from reflection to acceptance.

everyday relationship vocabulary, repeated sentence patterns, nuance in longing and delay

What to listen for

The lyrics move between a personal sense of distance from love and a wider reflection on what many people hope for in relationships. They use plain, reusable language such as 只是, 因为, 还是, and 也不要, while repeating key ideas like 缘份, 归宿, and 一个人 to build a steady emotional arc from uncertainty to acceptance.

  • Recognize how the song uses simple contrast words to show mixed feelings.
  • Learn practical vocabulary for relationships, fate, waiting, and being alone.
  • Understand how repeated lyric lines change emphasis without changing the core message.

How the song moves

Opening reflection

The first lines describe blurred vision and possible explanations, then move into distance from others and from love.

Memory of expectations

The middle section recalls hopes about a good husband, a good ending, and a future of walking hand in hand.

Return and repetition

Later lines repeat the same hopes and add loneliness, sadness, and the present state of still living alone.

Translation choices

眼睛仿佛起了雾

yǎn jīng fǎng fú qǐ le wù

Natural English
My eyes seem misted over.
Why
This keeps the sense of 仿佛 and 起了雾 as an appearance, not a literal weather event.

除了自己 已经很久没接触

chú le zì jǐ yǐ jīng hěn jiǔ méi jiē chù

Natural English
I haven’t really had contact with anyone for a long time, except myself.
Why
The line contrasts 除了自己 with 很久没接触, so the rendering should preserve both isolation and the exception.

虽然现在 还是一个人住

suī rán xiàn zài hái shì yí gè rén zhù

Natural English
Although now, I’m still living alone.
Why
This matches 虽然现在 and 还是一个人住, keeping the present-time concession without adding extra emotion.

Useful Mandarin from the song

也许yě xǔmaybe; perhaps

Used to soften a statement and show uncertainty. It often pairs naturally with a possible explanation.

也许明天会下雨。yě xǔ míng tiān huì xià yǔ。Maybe it will rain tomorrow.
显得xiǎn deseem; appear

This word describes how something looks or comes across, not necessarily what it truly is.

他说话很冷静,显得很有经验。tā shuō huà hěn lěng jìng, xiǎn de hěn yǒu jīng yàn。He speaks calmly and seems very experienced.
却又què yòuyet also; but then

This combination is useful for expressing a contradiction between two feelings or actions.

我想休息,却又睡不着。wǒ xiǎng xiū xī, què yòu shuì bù zhe。I want to rest, yet I also can’t fall asleep.
还是hái shìstill; nevertheless

Here it marks an unchanged state in the present. It is a very common word for describing something continuing.

他还是很忙。tā hái shì hěn máng。He is still very busy.

Listen closely

  • Notice how the repeated 只是迟到一步 sounds like a brief explanation for missed timing rather than a full story.
  • Listen for the contrast pattern in 不要…却又…, which shows conflicting desire and reality in one line.
  • Pay attention to the repeated ending with 还是一个人住 / 还是一个人, where the shorter final line reinforces the same present condition.

Check your understanding

  1. Which phrase in the song shows a contrast between wanting freedom and being trapped?

    Show answer

    不要束缚 却又被流年困住

  2. How would you say “maybe it’s just the lenses being blurry” using the song’s wording?

    Show answer

    也许只是镜片模糊

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