其实

Qi Shi

不需要借口
bù xū yào jiè kǒu
No need for excuses.
爱淡了就放手
ài dàn le jiù fàng shǒu
Letting go when love fades.
我不想听
wǒ bù xiǎng tīng
I don't want to listen.
你也没说 平静的交错
nǐ yě méi shuō píng jìng de jiāo cuò
You didn’t say, just quietly intertwining.
随便找个理由
suí biàn zhǎo gè lǐ yóu
Just find any reason.
决定了就别回头
jué dìng le jiù bié huí tóu
Once decided, don't look back.
不爱你的人
bù ài nǐ de rén
Those who don’t love you.
说什么都没用
shuō shén me dōu méi yòng
It’s useless whatever you say.
分开时难过不能说
fēn kāi shí nán guò bù néng shuō
Can't say we felt sad when we parted.
谁没谁不能好好过
shuí méi shuí bù néng hǎo hǎo guò
Who can't live well without whom?
那天我们走了很久没有争吵过
nà tiān wǒ men zǒu le hěn jiǔ méi yǒu zhēng chǎo guò
That day we walked for a long time without arguing.
分开时难过不要说
fēn kāi shí nán guò bú yào shuō
Don't say you felt sad when we parted.
如果被你一笑而过
rú guǒ bèi nǐ yī xiào ér guò
If you can laugh it off.
还不如让你选择想要的生活
hái bù rú ràng nǐ xuǎn zé xiǎng yào de shēng huó
It's better to let you choose the life you want.
分开后我会笑著说
fēn kāi hòu wǒ huì xiào zhù shuō
After parting, I will say with a smile.
当朋友问你关于我
dāng péng yǒu wèn nǐ guān yú wǒ
When friends ask you about me.
我都会轻描淡写仿佛没爱过
wǒ dū huì qīng miáo dàn xiě fǎng fú méi ài guò
I will downplay it as if I never loved.
其实我根本没人说
qí shí wǒ gēn běn méi rén shuō
Actually, I have no one to talk to.
其实我没你不能活
qí shí wǒ méi nǐ bù néng huó
Actually, I can't live without you.
其实我给你的爱比你想的多
qí shí wǒ gěi nǐ de ài bǐ nǐ xiǎng de duō
Actually, the love I gave you is more than you think.
分开时难过不能说
fēn kāi shí nán guò bù néng shuō
Can't say we felt sad when we parted.
谁没谁不能好好过
shuí méi shuí bù néng hǎo hǎo guò
Who can't live well without whom?
那天我们走了很久没有争吵过
nà tiān wǒ men zǒu le hěn jiǔ méi yǒu zhēng chǎo guò
That day we walked for a long time without arguing.
分开时难过不要说
fēn kāi shí nán guò bú yào shuō
Don't say you felt sad when we parted.
如果被你一笑而过
rú guǒ bèi nǐ yī xiào ér guò
If you can laugh it off.
还不如让你选择想要的生活
hái bù rú ràng nǐ xuǎn zé xiǎng yào de shēng huó
It's better to let you choose the life you want.
分开后我会笑著说
fēn kāi hòu wǒ huì xiào zhù shuō
After parting, I will say with a smile.
当朋友问你关于我
dāng péng yǒu wèn nǐ guān yú wǒ
When friends ask you about me.
我都会轻描淡写仿佛没爱过
wǒ dū huì qīng miáo dàn xiě fǎng fú méi ài guò
I will downplay it as if I never loved.
其实我根本没人说
qí shí wǒ gēn běn méi rén shuō
Actually, I have no one to talk to.
其实我没你不能活
qí shí wǒ méi nǐ bù néng huó
Actually, I can't live without you.
其实我给你的爱比你想的多
qí shí wǒ gěi nǐ de ài bǐ nǐ xiǎng de duō
Actually, the love I gave you is more than you think.
其实我爱你比你想的多得多
qí shí wǒ ài nǐ bǐ nǐ xiǎng de duō dé duō
Actually, I love you much more than you think.

Mandarin learning guide

Learn with 其实

This song keeps circling around a breakup that is spoken about calmly but felt deeply underneath. The lyrics are useful for learning how Mandarin softens emotion, resignation, and contrast with simple everyday phrases.

expressing reluctant separation; using 其实 to soften a statement; reading contrast between words and feelings

What to listen for

The lyrics move between quiet acceptance and hidden sadness. On the surface, the speaker talks about letting go, not looking back, and saying things lightly; underneath, the repeated 其实 lines reveal dependence, stronger love, and the loneliness of having no one to speak to. This makes the song especially useful for learning how Mandarin can say one thing while implying another.

  • Understand how 其实 changes the force of a sentence
  • Recognize common breakup-related phrases like 放手 and 回头
  • Interpret how the lyrics contrast outward calm with inward emotion

How the song moves

Opening: firm statements

The first lines sound decisive, using short expressions like 不需要借口 and 爱淡了就放手 to frame separation as a choice.

Middle: silence and restraint

The lyrics shift to not wanting to listen, not saying sadness, and finding reasons, which shows emotions being held back rather than explained.

Ending: repeated 其实 statements

The repeated 其实 lines reveal the hidden truth: the speaker has no one to talk to, cannot live without the other person, and loved more than the other person realized.

Translation choices

爱淡了就放手

ài dàn le jiù fàng shǒu

Natural English
When love fades, let it go.
Why
This keeps the conditional, matter-of-fact tone of 就 and sounds natural in English without losing the resignation.

我都会轻描淡写仿佛没爱过

wǒ dū huì qīng miáo dàn xiě fǎng fú méi ài guò

Natural English
I’ll downplay it as if I never loved.
Why
轻描淡写 is not just ‘say lightly’; it means minimizing or glossing over something, which fits the emotional cover in the line.

其实我爱你比你想的多得多

qí shí wǒ ài nǐ bǐ nǐ xiǎng de duō dé duō

Natural English
Actually, I loved you far more than you thought.
Why
比你想的多得多 intensifies the contrast, and ‘far more’ captures the repeated emphasis more naturally than a literal word-for-word rendering.

Useful Mandarin from the song

放手fàng shǒulet go

A common phrase for stopping a relationship or releasing control; it works in both literal and emotional contexts.

有时候该放手了。yǒu shí hòu gāi fàng shǒu le。Sometimes it’s time to let go.
别回头bié huí tóudon’t look back

Used to tell someone not to return to the past or reconsider a decision; very common in advice and farewell language.

走吧,别回头。zǒu ba, bié huí tóu。Go on, don’t look back.
轻描淡写qīng miáo dàn xiěto downplay; to gloss over

Describes speaking or writing in a way that makes something seem less serious than it is; useful outside this song for neutral or careful wording.

他轻描淡写地提了这件事。tā qīng miáo dàn xiě dì tí le zhè jiàn shì。He mentioned the matter very casually.
不能活bù néng huócannot live without

In this line it is emotional and exaggerated, not literal; Mandarin often uses this pattern to express strong dependence.

我离不开咖啡,简直不能活。wǒ lí bù kāi kā fēi, jiǎn zhí bù néng huó。I can’t live without coffee, honestly.

Listen closely

  • Notice how repeated short lines make the separation sound controlled, even when the meaning is painful.
  • Listen for 其实 near the end; it signals that the speaker is correcting the surface message with a deeper truth.
  • Pay attention to contrasts like 不要说 and 我都会轻描淡写, which show how the speaker avoids open emotional display.

Check your understanding

  1. Which line best shows the speaker hiding their feelings, and which phrase does that work through?

    Show answer

    L0017; the key phrase is 轻描淡写.

  2. What does repeated 其实 do in the ending lines?

    Show answer

    It introduces the speaker’s real feelings after the calmer surface statements.

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