越来越不懂

Yue Lai Yue Bu Dong

在 我 22 岁时
zài wǒ 22 suì shí
When I was 22 years old
回想起当时 多么想谈恋爱
huí xiǎng qǐ dāng shí duō me xiǎng tán liàn ài
Thinking back to that time, how much I wanted to fall in love
妈妈说就让它来
mā mā shuō jiù ràng tā lái
My mom said to just let it happen
然而在 我 32 岁时
rán ér zài wǒ 32 suì shí
Yet when I was 32 years old
发现我没太 多的兴趣等待
fā xiàn wǒ méi tài duō de xìng qù děng dài
I found I wasn't very interested in waiting
它失去某种色彩
tā shī qù mǒu zhǒng sè cǎi
It lost some sort of color
得不到的就更加爱
dé bú dào de jiù gèng jiā ài
The more you can't have it, the more you love it
太容易来的 就不理睬 其实
tài róng yì lái de jiù bù lǐ cǎi qí shí
What comes too easily is often disregarded
谁不想遇见真爱 爱得绝对 爱得坦白
shuí bù xiǎng yù jiàn zhēn ài ài dé jué duì ài dé tǎn bái
Who doesn't want to meet true love, to love wholeheartedly and honestly?
以为遇上了就会明白
yǐ wéi yù shàng le jiù huì míng bái
I thought that once I met it, I'd understand
但每次它只留下 惊鸿一瞥的感慨
dàn měi cì tā zhǐ liú xià jīng hóng yī piē de gǎn kǎi
But each time, it only leaves me with a fleeting glimpse of emotion
我 越来越不懂爱
wǒ yuè lái yuè bù dǒng ài
I increasingly don't understand love
才 32 岁的我
cái 32 suì de wǒ
At just 32 years old
虽然一个人过 也过得够精彩
suī rán yí gè rén guò yě guò dé gòu jīng cǎi
Though living alone, I still lead a splendid life
偶尔才想谈恋爱
ǒu ěr cái xiǎng tán liàn ài
Sometimes I think about falling in love
然而爱 总是乱了节拍
rán ér ài zǒng shì luàn le jié pāi
Yet love always throws off the rhythm
我只能够瞎猜 也许能中乐透彩
wǒ zhǐ néng gòu xiā cāi yě xǔ néng zhōng lè tòu cǎi
I can only make blind guesses; perhaps I could win the lottery
中了又觉得奇怪
zhōng le yòu jué de qí guài
Winning would also feel strange
得不到的就更加爱
dé bú dào de jiù gèng jiā ài
The more you can't have it, the more you love it
太容易来的 就不理睬 其实
tài róng yì lái de jiù bù lǐ cǎi qí shí
What comes too easily is often disregarded
谁不想遇见真爱 爱得绝对 爱得坦白
shuí bù xiǎng yù jiàn zhēn ài ài dé jué duì ài dé tǎn bái
Who doesn't want to meet true love, to love wholeheartedly and honestly?
以为遇上了就会明白
yǐ wéi yù shàng le jiù huì míng bái
I thought that once I met it, I'd understand
但每次它只留下 惊鸿一瞥的感慨
dàn měi cì tā zhǐ liú xià jīng hóng yī piē de gǎn kǎi
But each time, it only leaves me with a fleeting glimpse of emotion
而我越来越不懂爱
ér wǒ yuè lái yuè bù dǒng ài
And I increasingly don't understand love
得不到的无所谓
dé bú dào de wú suǒ wèi
Not getting it doesn't matter
就算是自我安慰 没必要伤悲
jiù suàn shì zì wǒ ān wèi méi bì yào shāng bēi
Even if it's self-comfort, there's no need to be sad
得不到的就更加爱
dé bú dào de jiù gèng jiā ài
The more you can't have it, the more you love it
太容易来的 就不理睬 其实
tài róng yì lái de jiù bù lǐ cǎi qí shí
What comes too easily is often disregarded
谁不想遇见真爱 爱得绝对 爱得坦白
shuí bù xiǎng yù jiàn zhēn ài ài dé jué duì ài dé tǎn bái
Who doesn't want to meet true love, to love wholeheartedly and honestly?
以为遇上了就会明白
yǐ wéi yù shàng le jiù huì míng bái
I thought that once I met it, I'd understand
但每次它只留下惊鸿一瞥的感慨
dàn měi cì tā zhǐ liú xià jīng hóng yī piē de gǎn kǎi
But each time, it only leaves me with a fleeting glimpse of emotion
我 越来越不懂爱
wǒ yuè lái yuè bù dǒng ài
I increasingly don't understand love
以为遇上了就会明白
yǐ wéi yù shàng le jiù huì míng bái
I thought that once I met it, I'd understand
但每次它只留下 惊鸿一瞥的感慨
dàn měi cì tā zhǐ liú xià jīng hóng yī piē de gǎn kǎi
But each time, it only leaves me with a fleeting glimpse of emotion
我 越来越不懂 爱
wǒ yuè lái yuè bù dǒng ài
I increasingly don't understand love

Mandarin learning guide

Learn with 越來越不懂

This guide follows a first-person reflection on age, love, and changing expectations. The lyric moves between wanting love, doubting it, and repeating a clear refrain of not understanding it.

time expressions and age markers; contrast between wanting and not wanting love; repeated refrain and lyric patterning

What to listen for

The lyric traces a speaker at 22 and 32, comparing an earlier eagerness for romance with a later reluctance to wait. It repeats the idea that love is confusing, using contrast words and fixed expressions to show how expectations change over time.

  • Identify how the lyric marks different ages and time points.
  • Understand the contrast between 得不到 and 太容易来的 in the repeated refrain.
  • Recognize how repeated lines build the message that the speaker越来越不懂爱.

How the song moves

Opening memory (L0001–L0003)

The speaker looks back to age 22, recalls wanting love, and quotes a mother’s advice to let it happen.

Later perspective (L0004–L0011)

At 32, the speaker says waiting is less appealing and that love leaves only a brief impression.

Refrain and reflection (L0012–L0035)

The repeated refrain states not understanding love, then cycles through contrast, self-comfort, and the same questioning lines.

Translation choices

发现我没太 多的兴趣等待

fā xiàn wǒ méi tài duō de xìng qù děng dài

Natural English
I found I wasn't very interested in waiting
Why
This keeps the speaker’s personal discovery and matches 没太多的兴趣 as a low level of interest, not a total refusal.

太容易来的 就不理睬 其实

tài róng yì lái de jiù bù lǐ cǎi qí shí

Natural English
What comes too easily is often disregarded
Why
This captures the general statement in 太容易来的 就不理睬 and preserves the contrast with 得不到的就更加爱.

但每次它只留下 惊鸿一瞥的感慨

dàn měi cì tā zhǐ liú xià jīng hóng yī piē de gǎn kǎi

Natural English
But each time, it only leaves behind a fleeting feeling
Why
This stays close to the idea of only留下 and the brief, passing sense in 惊鸿一瞥的感慨 without over-specifying the emotion.

Useful Mandarin from the song

22岁时22 suì shíat 22 years old

The pattern 数字+岁+时 is a direct way to anchor a past time point in Chinese.

我在18岁时学会了骑车。wǒ zài 18 suì shí xué huì le qí chē。When I was 18, I learned to ride a bike.
以为yǐ wéito think mistakenly; to suppose

以为 often signals a belief later shown to be incomplete or wrong, which fits the speaker’s changed perspective.

我以为你已经回家了。wǒ yǐ wéi nǐ yǐ jīng huí jiā le。I thought you had already gone home.
乱了节拍luàn le jié pāilost the rhythm

This is a figurative way to say things no longer match the expected pace or order, and it works beyond music contexts.

计划一变,大家都乱了节拍。jì huà yī biàn, dà jiā dōu luàn le jié pāi。Once the plan changed, everyone lost the rhythm.

Listen closely

  • Listen for the age contrasts between 22岁时 and 32岁时; they frame the whole lyric.
  • Notice how the repeated line 得不到的就更加爱 is followed by 太容易来的 就不理睬, creating a strong contrast.
  • Hear the refrain 我越来越不懂爱 / 而我越来越不懂爱 as the main emotional summary rather than a new plot point.

Check your understanding

  1. Which line shows the contrast between not getting something and loving it more?

    Show answer

    得不到的就更加爱

  2. What does 以为遇上了就会明白 suggest about the speaker’s earlier expectation?

    Show answer

    The speaker expected love would become clear once it appeared.

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